This entire process of creating a controlled and comfortable world to help us find some stability, was the top priority then; but now it's time to shift gears and rock the boat. Maturity begins by learning to cope during the uncomfortable situations. Parenting how to cope using positive, constructive processing skills that help foster patience, perseverance and tenacity followed by resolution can be quite the task in any situation.
Daily life is far from controlled and more times then not it has a tendency to be noisome and uncomfortable. There is a wide range of sensory inputs that attack our system in which we learn to process, adjust and adapt to.
Creating constant comfort does not teach adaptivity it gives a false sense of security.
The strategy is so diverse for each child that we cannot use just one book, or take one persons plan or idea but taking those tools and compiling a system unique for our individual child's needs. Searching for methods, programs, professionals, supplements, teachers, books etc. to keep us moving forward toward higher and higher functionality not perfection.
For me it has been to stop changing my goals for her into a goal I would impose on myself. Stop looking past the goal I had set and wanting a much higher goal to be met. Stop missing the completion of simple task happening right before my eyes. Stop changing my goals to meet the worlds standard of success. Stop fixing it for her, stop talking for her, stop wanting it more then she wants it , stop jumping ahead and breath in the uncomfortable moment of today right now without fixing or doing anything.
I glance over and see through the shining light a calm inside her that I have not seen before and my heart rejoices. For today the goal has been met and the uncomfortable moments left unfixed have produced compatibility with life's adversity.
