Forgive but NOT forget

That old saying forgive and forget does not work for me. I think it is just another way for us to brush things under the rug. We say the words I forgive you, force our self to forget the pain and as we say in Texas "Cowboy Up", then carry on with life.

But what happens when we forget is, there is a chance it could happen again. A chance we could fall into the same trap. The patterns or habits we have lurk around every corner are relentless,  the anger we feel toward pain that others have caused us is debilitating and destructive but does forgetting really help change this from occurring. Are we free from anger and do we break habits because we forget? NO! Forgetting does not help, it debilitates us from future maturity and growth.  

Making a U-Turn from destructive patterns of behavior or putting a hand up to the demon inside all of us that shouts are worthlessness.  Building NEW patterns, new behaviors and new responses takes diligence, perseverance, determination and if you have to FAKE it till you MAKE it, but DO not forget the past in fear that we may repeat it, like parachute pants and jelly shoes.

The New Year brings HOPE that patterns can be broken and we can free our self from the haunting nightmare of settling, loneliness and depression. Does action precipitate feelings or the other way around?

Valued or undervalued, my opinion, and all things said straight UP with me! ACTION BABY all ACTION to create new habits by doing NEW things, not just ordering new food on the menu but surrounding yourself, all the senses, sight, hearing, vision and taste with a new creation. A creator made in complete perfection that we may be made whole. The feelings WILL follow along with the appreciation of the new YOU and the work necessary to obtain it.

Melody so sweet that contentment is the result. Let nothing outside of your NEWNESS inside, not magazine pictures, not TV shows or adds, not Internet, not friends, not books, not your own thoughts that could divert you from your goal of creating a more PERFECT you! 

Perfection is not bought, contentment is not earned, peace is not obtained IT is a U-TURN from anything that is NOT those things. 

This is how you arrive at your destination. 

Make a U-turn this year and fill your moments with all that is right, good, and true!

I am right behind you.... please caught me when I fall and I will!

Happy New Year