WHAT WE GUARD SHOWS WHAT WE VALUE

Ok let's talk about women's issues since I am a women and I have a daughter it seems only natural that I would have a tiny bit of insight into the women's brain, but this insight will also include years of working with women as well, being a foster parent and have an occupational therapy background.

I have been a trainer of health and wellness for 19 years and have seen and heard it ALL. The obsession with being skinny, wanting to eat but not eating, too much exercise, not enough exercise, how to dress, what to wear what not to wear, loving our self, not loving our self......blah blah blah. 

Children learn more from what is caught then what is taught so what message are our daughters getting? What message are we giving our sons about women?  Where do we start? 

We as women have learned the skill of modesty and manipulation from a very young age. We learn to cry or whine with that cute little smile when we want something or change a story to get our way. We find clever ways of manipulating the truth to get the situation to where we feel comfortable.

I taught a lecture about self esteem to a group of 7-11 yr old kids and the response I received from 80% of the class was- "well you can get it fixed if you don't like it, You could get your teeth bleached, your hair color changed, your face redone, your breasts bigger, your nails colored, your too short wear heels".  On and on it went until the only thing I could think to talk about to these kids that could NOT be changed was my shoe size. I left feeling like I had failed them by not being able to find a way to encourage self love without adaptations. Yes make-up, mani/pedis, coloring your hair is all fine and I do not think we harm of kids by taking care of ourselves because the same can be taught to our kids by not taking care of ourselves. I believe what we guard shows what we value. 

When the teen years approach we have our first battle with the lovely hormones and from that day on these fluctuating hormones will be our driving focus. They control us if we let them, they affect mode, sex drive, weight gain or loss and our ability to handle stress.

This is part of motherhood, teaching our sons and daughters about resilience in the face of adversity. With any child and especially a special needs child that may be on medication-hormones have a significant impact on the brain.  

The how, why and what of medication and hormones can be researched but for a starting spot let's teach a child how to handle change even when they feel out of control.

These issues addressed are coming from a teenage girl that lived in rage. Fighting in school, driving recklessly, I spent time in jail and I caused myself life long scares that only time can heal. If you add the basic needs of a child to any additional circumstances like emotional or physical abuse you have a BOMB inside. Together we can make a difference in educating ourselves and our kids about LIFE!  


Kids today, mother and fathers tomorrow and what they learn now they will teach then!

Our Greatest Fear —Marianne Williamson

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,
talented and fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not serve the world.

There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other

people won't feel insecure around you.

We were born to make manifest the glory of
God that is within us.

It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine,
we unconsciously give other people
permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.

—Marianne Williamson